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Moving On And Letting Go

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I’ve always struggled with tossing stuff and getting rid of things.  If I spent money on it, I somehow feel like I have to keep it, even if I’m not using it anymore.  I’m sure I’m not alone in this, but it’s something I’ve been working on, and lately I’ve been making a lot of headway.

Over the last couple years, I’ve shifted away from using commercial cleaning products, makeup, hair products, etc.  I haven’t used any of them for at least a year, much longer for some things.  But they were all still sitting under my sink, and in our bathrooms.  I had bought them when I was less educated about chemical toxins, and they were still hanging around.  This process of switching to organic and non-toxic products has been very satisfying, and it keeps growing on itself.  I’m never going back.  So why was I still hanging on to all this stuff?  I don’t know, but I know it felt good to clear it out.

I started going through our under-sink cabinets yesterday.  The intent was to start baby proofing, since our little guy will be on the move by the end of the year, and I’d rather stay a few steps ahead of him in this process.  So I got a big box, and started filling it up.  Cans of Comet and Ajax that I think were here when we moved in.  Carpet cleaner that was definitely here when we moved in.  Bleach, perfume, facial masks, sunless tanner that I honestly think I’ve had since college  (had no idea that was still hanging around.  I only used it once, and it turned me orange.  I don’t think the technology was so great back then, but what was I thinking anyway?)  I found lotions with sparkles in them, cuticle cream, antiperspirant, lipsticks, nail polish, bubble bath… it was quite the pile by the time I finished.  I’ve packed it all up to take to the local recycle center.  They have a program for safe disposal of household chemicals, and I think my pile fits the bill.

So what am I left with?  Cocoa butter that I use as lotion.  Baking soda that I use to clean everything, including my teeth and hair.  Vinegar that I also use to clean, and as a hair conditioner.  Some Burt’s Bees and California Baby sunscreens that I use on my hands – I just keep the rest of me covered up when I’m outside (haven’t used it on the baby yet – we just keep him out of the sun).  Some Calendula baby oil.  Coconut oil.  And some Burt’s Bees deodorant.  I think that’s about it.  Less is truly more sometimes.  Of course we’ll keep all of that out of the baby’s reach anyway, but it feels good to know that if he did happen to get into my cleaning supplies, and took a swig of vinegar, we wouldn’t be heading to the emergency room.

I had to laugh when I saw the huge pile of crud that I cleaned out from our bathrooms.  I hadn’t used any of it for ages (had to be at least 10 years for the sunless tanner) and yet it was still hanging around.  Probably because I had paid for it all, and felt some sort of weird need to use it up in order to not feel like I had thrown my money away.  But here’s the thing – I threw my money away the day I bought all that stuff.  Hanging onto it wasn’t going to get my money back.  And I was never going to use any of it again.  It’s a very freeing feeling to just get rid of it all.

I’ve begun working my way through the whole house, taking a closer look at our stuff.  I’ve loaded several bags into my car to take to the thrift store, and I’ll be adding to that over the next few weeks.  If I find something that really is worth something, I could always sell it on ebay.  But most of it will probably be small stuff – and chances are I got it second hand to begin with.  We have a finite amount of space and time on this earth.  I don’t want to be filling either one with useless remnants of my past that no longer have a place in my present or my future.  Just because I spent money on them some long-ago day doesn’t mean that I still have to be dragging them around with me.  And at least I’m not still spending money on them.

The Bill For Our Fence

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Last week, we bought vinyl fencing to replace our old wooden picket fence that was falling apart.  I had estimated that the total cost was going to be about $600, based on an earlier trip to Home Depot to get prices, and the measurements we made in our back yard.  My husband picked up the fencing on Saturday (and managed to get it loaded into the back of our Honda Civic – no easy feat!) and we’ve got about half of it installed so far.

When he got home, he told me that the total was over $700 – he had to buy some additional hardware that I hadn’t accounted for.  But it still seemed really high.  I looked at the receipt, and noticed that they had charged us $48/section for the fence.  The week before, when I had gone to price everything, the sign by the sections said $40 each.  We needed 9 sections, so that’s a big difference.  My husband had to go back to Home Depot anyway, to pick up the rest of the fence, so he went and asked them about the price.  Turned out that their computer had made a mistake – the price was indeed supposed to be $40 each.  So our total came out to about $630 once everything was straightened out.

Always check your receipts!  Especially with a big expensive project like this, it’s easy to overlook a small overcharge.  But they can really add up.

A Jewelry Gift Card Giveaway

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Last year we sold my engagement ring and put the money into our HSA and my Roth IRA. Since I still liked the look of diamonds, but not the price or the ethical issues, we bought a new ring from Diamond Nexus Labs. It cost $231, and looks just as good a year later as it did when we first got it. I get far more compliments on it than I did on my original $2000 diamond ring, and I actually like this one better.

Last week, I got a gift card in the mail from Diamond Nexus Labs. It’s worth $100, but you have to spend $250 to redeem it. Their stuff is already very reasonably priced – I wish we had known about them when we first went shopping for an engagement ring… then we wouldn’t have had to take a $900 hit when we sold it. There is a ton of great stuff in the $250 range, and with the gift card, it would only cost $150.

I thought about buying a necklace, but I’m just not that much of a fancy jewelry girl. I love my engagement/wedding rings, but everything else I wear tends to be novelty stuff, not diamonds. But for someone who likes diamond jewelry, the gift card could be a lot of fun. So…. I’m going to give it away to one of my readers. All you have to do is leave a comment, and you’ll be entered in a random drawing. I’ll announce the winner on August 2nd (the gift card has to be redeemed by 9/30/08). (and no, DNL isn’t paying me to talk up their stuff – that would be sweet though…)

You can get two extra entries by writing a post on your own blog about this giveaway. Good luck!

And if you’re interested in entering to win literally hundreds of giveaways, check out the Bloggy Giveaway Carnival – there’s something for everyone… maybe today’s your lucky day!

A Stupid Human Trick

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Yesterday we bought a VitaMix blender.  I’ve wanted one for years, but could never justify the price.  Yesterday we were in Costco, and they were selling them for $50 less than the online price.  We had our laptop in the car, so my husband went out and checked Craigslist again (we’ve done it before, to no avail) and the only VitaMix for sale was about 35 years old.  There were two ads for people wanting VitaMix blenders, but none for sale – as usual.  So we decided to just do it.  We have a lot more money these days than we used to, and although most of it goes into savings, we do allow ourselves an occasional splurge.

I was so excited to use it – I made a green smoothie last night, and it was so much better than the ones I make in the food processor.  That VitaMix has some get up and go.  Anyway, I made another smoothie this morning, washed out the container, and left the container on the counter to dry, with the lid plug inside it.  This afternoon, I decided to make another smoothie.  I cut up some pineapple, washed a bunch of grapes and spinach, added a carrot and some celery, and dumped it all into the blender.  When I turned it on, it made the most horrific noise – I couldn’t figure out what in the world was going on – it was only fruits and veggies, but it sounded like I was grinding rocks.  Oops.  The lid plug.  Yep – it was still inside the blender container.  Damn.  I had to compost the entire smoothie, since I think that little ground up pieces of plastic probably negate the health benefits of the spinach.  And of course the lid plug has seen better days.  Happily, the blender itself is just fine, and I looked online and found that I can order a new lid for $15.  And the blender still works just fine without the lid plug, I just have to put my hand over the hole in the lid to make sure stuff doesn’t splatter out.

When it first happened, I cried.  I was so bummed.  I’d only had the blender for 24 hours and I’d already ground up part of the lid! Who does that??  But my husband reminded me that now that we have our son, any mistake we make that can be remedied by just buying a new part, isn’t that big a deal.  And luckily the blender is fine, except for the lid plug.  So I’m out a $15 lid plug and about $5 or $10 worth of produce.  A bummer, but I guess it could be worse.  And I’ll never again put food in that blender without looking inside!

Breastfeeding And Life Lessons

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Our baby is five weeks old today, and we’ve settled into a pretty happy little existence with him at the center of it all.  Can’t really remember what life was like before we had him, and that’s just fine.  In the last five weeks, we’ve spent very little additional money compared with what we were spending before we had him.  We did buy an organic crib mattress for him (he’s still sleeping in our bed, but someday he’ll be using it, I’m sure…) and our health insurance premiums went up by about $160/month now that we added him to the policy.  But that’s about it.  We haven’t bought any toys or clothes or baby gadgets.  I went to Babies R Us one day with a friend who wanted to go looking for clothes for her own kids.  I did end up buying a nursing bra there, so I suppose that’s another $15 that I have to count, since I probably would not have been buying an oh-so-sexy nursing bra without having a baby.  We’ve spent a ton of time with our baby, holding him and snuggling him and taking him for walks all over town in the sling.  But we haven’t spent a lot of money.

One decision that always gets mentioned whenever frugal bloggers talk about the “cost of a baby” is breastfeeding versus formula.  Obviously breast feeding is the frugal choice, and I think most people also know it’s the best choice for the baby.  I was 100% committed to breast feeding long before my baby was born, but the first couple weeks were pretty rough.  In the beginning, breast feeding was so painful that I would cry the whole time he was nursing.  I hadn’t expected that – people talk about how painful birth is, but very few people mentioned anything about nursing being painful.  But I was determined.  If there are moms who breastfeed adopted babies, there was no way I wasn’t going to breastfeed.  I talked with my midwife, who verified that he was latched on properly and doing everything he was supposed to be doing.  So I persevered.  And sure enough, by the time my son was two weeks old, I noticed that I wasn’t wincing anymore when he started to nurse.  And pretty soon it became the wonderful experience that people talk about.  I love feeding my baby – it’s one of the highlights of my day (and night).  It makes me sad to think that there may be other moms out there who experience the same thing and give up – believe me, it does get so much better!

So what does this have to do with personal finance?  Well, for one thing, it’s a whole lot cheaper than formula would be, and the boost to his immune system will mean fewer sick baby days, which is good all around.  But in the bigger picture, I’m reminded of the words of Yoda – “do, or do not, there is no ‘try’.”  My experience with breastfeeding kinda sucked in the beginning (pun intended), but because I was absolutely determined to make it work, I kept at it.  Same thing with paying off our debts after we got our business going, and with living below our means ever since.  If you’re trying to do something, especially if it turns out to be difficult, there’s a good chance you won’t succeed.  But if you’re absolutely going to do something no matter what, you’re a whole lot more likely to succeed.

Ten Years Gone By

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JD at Get Rich Slowly has posted an article about what his life and finances were like ten years ago, and has invited other bloggers to share their stories as well.  I think it’s interesting to look back over where we’ve been and to think about where we’re headed, so here goes…

Ten years ago, I had just graduated from college.  I spent the summer of 1998 working at a grocery store, hanging out with my friends, partying, and generally enjoying life.  I was never worried about money because my expenses were so low that my grocery store job more than covered them.  I had spent my senior year of college working my way through the Peace Corps application process, and I left to spend two years teaching math in Africa at the end of the summer.

I didn’t have any debt ten years ago.  I had worked my way through college, didn’t have a car, lived in a very modest apartment that I shared with my best friend (I think rent was about $350/month), and was already an established thrift-store shopper.  I had one credit card that I had applied for the year before, and I had never carried a balance on it.

I had about $3000 in savings that I had been growing since I was five, which I had just put into a Vanguard mutual fund.  That money was part of the down payment on the house my husband and I would buy five years later.

I met my husband in the spring of 2001, and we moved in together that summer.  For the first couple years we split our expenses roughly down the middle, taking turns paying for groceries and splitting the rent check.  But we knew from the beginning that we planned to be together forever, so we were already thinking of it as “our” money pretty much from the start.  Our paychecks were deposited into our own accounts, which is why we split our expenses.  Two years later we bought our house, and that’s when we merged our bank accounts and got a joint credit card.  We’ve kept all of our money combined ever since.

The first time we had debt was when my husband and I decided to create our own insurance brokerage, in 2003.  My husband had already been an agent for a year or so at that point, but he was working for another agency.  I was working in a corporate job that I hated, so I quit to join my husband in the insurance industry.  We reached the height of our debt in early 2004, with lots of business start-up expenses (we now refer to it as tuition costs, since we learned a lot about business from some of our mistakes over the years) and lots of living expenses that had been put on credit cards during the early days of our business when we would sometimes only earn enough in a month to pay the mortgage and not much else.  The worst it ever got was about $40,000 in debt.  We started earning more money as 2004 progressed, and were able to start paying off debt.  During 2005 and 2006, we focused everything we had on paying off debt, and by 2007 the only debt we had (other than our mortgage) was at zero percent interest and causing us much less stress.  We paid it all off in the summer of 2007.

I feel like I’ve come full circle back to where I was in the summer of 1998, but with lots of additional good things going on in my life.  I’m back to paying off our credit card every month, and I’m back to pretty much not worrying about money.  Our expenses are quite a bit lower than our income these days, and we’re working to keep it that way.  I have quite a bit more in savings that I did in 1998, and a great little house.  We live a pretty simple, frugal life, and get great pleasure from small things.  I have a wonderful husband and an amazingly perfect baby boy, and a cat and dog who never cease to entertain us.  That’s about all I need to be happy.

The only real negative over the last ten years has been my father’s illness, which still makes me sad.  He’s been sick for almost seven years now, although he’s doing much better with daily dialysis and sometimes he doesn’t seem sick at all.  I would trade all of my retirement funds in a heartbeat to have him healthy again, but unfortunately life doesn’t always let us make the trades we’d like to.  I’m just grateful that he’s doing better these days, and that he’s still around to hold his grandson.

If I could meet up with the 1998 me and give her some advice, I’d tell her that she’s on a pretty good track, and not to worry so much about little things, because at least for the next ten years, I can guarantee her that every little thing’s gonna be alright.

Here are some other bloggers who have written then-and-now stories:

Five Cent Nickle: Stepping Back In Time: Our Life Ten Years Ago

Free Money Finance: My Finances Ten Years Ago And Now

Mighty Bargain Hunter: My Finances Ten Years Back

No Credit Needed:  Looking Back: Ten Years Ago

Wise Bread: Money Management Lessons: Not Quite Ten Years To Life

What about you?  How has your financial situation changed (or not) over the last ten years?

Credit Card Rewards Glitch

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I was looking at our business credit card statements today, to make sure that everything was in order after our fraud incident last month.  They had cancelled my husband’s card and issued a new one, which was done as soon as we reported the problem.  We paid all the legit charges on the card, and that’s reflected on the new card statement.  The new statement also shows a reversal of the $3600 charge that someone made on the card, so all is well as far as the balance goes.  But then I noticed that our rewards points balance was negative 3200.  Hmmm.  It had been 10,081 last month, and I had cashed in 10,000 points to get $100 in gas cards.  So we should have been left with 81 points, plus what we earned this month. 

So I called them today, and after spending about 15 minutes on the phone talking with two very helpful reps, we figured out the problem.  Balance transfers don’t accumulate rewards points (only purchases do that).  So when the fraudulent balance transfer went through, it didn’t affect our rewards points at all.  But when the bank reversed the charges, it showed up on our statement as a credit, and the rewards system saw that as a return.  It basically treated it as if we had bought something for $3600 and then sent it back.  So the system subtracted 3600 points from our total.  Hence the negative points currently showing on our statement. 

The second person I talked to said that it was a mistake, and that since the balance transfer hadn’t increased our points balance, a reversal of the transfer should not have decreased our rewards balance either.  She submitted an order to get it fixed, and said I would be notified within 30 days of the outcome of all this, and hopefully we’ll see the rewards points fixed on our next statement.  We only spend about $500/month on our business card, so it would have taken half of 2008 to just get back to zero if I hadn’t noticed the problem.  Now we can get back on track towards earning another $50 gas card much sooner than we would have if I hadn’t noticed the error.  Another reminder to double check financial statements carefully!

Progress In Preventing Credit Card Fraud

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An update on my attempts to better secure our credit card:  I called our bank yesterday and got them to make a note in our file saying that balance transfers cannot be made from our credit cards to any bank account, regardless of who is asking for it.  We would never do this, but a thief would (and did, in the case of our business credit card last week).  So if someone calls the bank and claims to be one of us, asking for a balance transfer, it won’t be done.  The only thing that can be done with those cards now is purchases.  I know that there’s still a possibility of fraudulent charges, but we’ve lowered the overall risk by having the block on balance transfers.  I feel warm and fuzzy. 

Financial Things We Need To Do

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Money, Matter, and More Musings has written a great pollwith 20 questions everyone should ask themselves regarding personal finance.  I feel like I’m pretty much on top of our finances, but I was not able to answer yes to every question.  There were five questions that made me realize that I still have work to do:

Do I have a backup of all important financial documents?  Not really.  And everything I have is in a cheap metal filing cabinet beside my desk.  I think that we should probably get a good quality fire proof safe and put a lot of stuff in that instead.  The documents concerning our mortgage, our life insurance certificates, copies of our parents’ wills, our credit card and financial account information.  I’m putting this on the to do list.

Have I gone over our credit reports in the last three months?  Nope – it’s been more like 9 months.  Oops. 

Have I seen my credit score in the last three months?  Not even close.  The last time we looked at our actual credit scores was in the fall of 2002 when we were buying our house.  I’m not too concerned with this however, since we have no plans to take out a loan, and I think that as long as our credit reports are good, the score must follow, right?  Maybe I’m being complacent about this… but I don’t want to pay to get our credit scores.

Do we have at least three months worth of expenses in an emergency fund?  Not yet.  We’re putting $100/month into our ING account, and we have just over $1000 in there right now.  We’re also saving in our HSA to have medical emergencies covered.  But realistically we need at least $9000 in savings to have three months worth of expenses in reserve.  That will take a while at $100/month, but we’re plugging away at it. 

Does my spouse know all the details of our financial info if something were to happen to me?  Sort of.  He’s aware of what expenses we have and what accounts we have (mortgage, Ameritrade, HSA, ING, etc) but I’m pretty sure he doesn’t know all the nitty gritty.  He’d have to sift through that little metal filing cabinet to find everything, and some of it is pretty cryptic.  I enjoy handling the money, and he lets me do it.  When I was working in a big corporation 60+ hrs/week and my husband was just starting his self-employment journey (about 6 years ago) he handled all the money and bills.  But it’s more complicated now – there are more assets (back then we had a checking account and our 401ks and that was about it).  So I think that we should sit down for a meeting about the details.  Maybe we could get a safe and then work together to fill it, making sure that each of us knows exactly what’s going in. 

MMM’s postwas an eye-opener.  If you haven’t taken the quiz yet, you should head over there and see what areas you need to work on – and if you can answer yes to every question, congratulations!!!

Medical Bill Woes

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Earlier this summer, my husband had a dermatology procedure done in a local office.  We had picked that office because they offered the best price – we knew nothing about them beforehand. 

Over the last few months, we’ve gone back and forth with them about the bill.  Basically, they quoted about $300 plus pathology over the phone when my husband explained what he needed.  We’ve long since paid the pathology bill ($85), but the bill for the whole procedure is still unresolved.  The billing person that we worked with was great – but she’s in a different office and is just contracted for the billing.  Her hands were pretty much tied, although she did manage to wrangle a small discount for us.  When we actually talked with the office manager of the dermatology practice, I was horrified by the fact that anyone like this can get a job that involves dealing with the public.  She was rude and condescending, and the idea of apologizing never even occured to her.  Both my husband and I talked with her, and were equally shocked by her behavior.  She actually hung up on my husband when he was trying to explain our position – I was in the room listening, and heard him talking in a calm voice and being continually cut off by her interrupting him. 

Both my husband and I are pretty easy-going people.  We are not quick to anger, we don’t send restaurant meals back if they’re not exactly what we ordered, we don’t get angry with airline ticket agents if our flight is cancelled or delayed.  We’ve both been in jobs that require a high level of customer service skills for almost 10 years; we’re very careful to treat others the way we would like to be treated, and tend to give people the benefit of the doubt.  But this woman was horrid. 

We basically came to the conclusion that the person who quoted $300 over the phone was pulling the number out of the air.  There is no way in the world she was basing her estimate on any of the actual billing codes that the doctor uses.  And yet before we had the procedure done, the only way we could get prices was to call around and trust the office staff to give us numbers that were at least loosely based on real billing codes.  We feel cheated with this whole thing.  We would never have had the procedure done if we had gotten an estimate even close to what they charged us, and yet after it’s done, we’re stuck with the bill, like it or not. 

We filed a complaint with the Better Business Bureau a couple weeks ago, and the BBB has told us that they’ve forwarded the complaint on to the doctor’s office.  Our insurance agency is a member of the BBB (and we’ve never had a complaint in 5 years of business), so we’re familiar with the procedure.  If the doctor’s office does not respond to the notice from the BBB, they end up with an “unresolved complaint” notation on their file.  So far they have not responded, and I’m not really surprised.  Throughout this entire mess, they’ve made it clear that their only priority is making money – once that’s done, they have no need for basic civility, ethical business practices, or customer service.  The sad part is that since they’re on the network for several big insurance companies, they know that they will still get business from people who just find them on a provider directory.

I talked with the billing lady about installment payments, and she said that it would be fine to make payments – she even told me that a lot of people only pay $50/month.  There is no interest charged on outstanding bills as long as a payment is made each month.  We’ve paid $200 so far, and I intend to pay $100/month until it’s paid off.  There is no way that I’m cleaning out our HSA right now to pay these aholes.

The funny thing is that we have the money in the HSA to pay the whole bill.  Even after all this time and as badly as they’ve behaved for the last 2 months, if they were to call us today and apologize for their ridiculous quoting method (ie, pulling numbers out of the air) and the way that they’ve treated our very ligitimate concerns, we would pay the whole bill tomorrow.  When we submitted our complaint with the BBB, we decided that if they made any effort at all to compromise with us and offer a genuine apology, we would pay the bill in full.  But since they have ignored us and ignored the BBB, they will be floating a 0% loan to us for over a year.  They earned their own bad karma.Â