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Traveling Light With A Baby Or Toddler

I love this post from Miss Minimalist about how she goes on weekend trips with nothing but a large purse.  We have a toddler, so traveling does involve a bit more stuff than we would take for just ourselves, but we’ve always managed to travel relatively light, even with our son.  We just spent a three day weekend visiting my husband’s parents.  Our son is still in diapers, and cloth diapers do take up quite a bit of space (but I like them a lot more than disposables).  We took along a large tote bag filled with diapers and cloth wipes, but other than that, we each had one small back back for our stuff.  My father in law wanted my husband to go golfing with him, so we had to take his golf clubs and shoes.  We also had to take our dog (I’m pretty sure the cat loves it when we leave her here for a few days on her own, but that wouldn’t work so well for the dog).  We took my husband’s tiny Audi, and still had enough room left over that we were able to bring home several boxes of canning jars that my mother in law no longer needed (tomato canning season is right around the corner… stay tuned for my forays into that adventure).

I have found that people – even those who are fans of traveling light – start schlepping LOADS of stuff once they have a baby.  I’ve watched vehicles get packed for a three day trip and the entire trunk is filled with baby stuff.  And it doesn’t look like fun.  Let’s face it, traveling with a big purse like Miss Minimalist uses is a lot more convenient than dragging a huge suitcase all over the place.  So why not try to continue to keep it as light as possible, even with a baby or toddler?

Here’s what we’ve done to minimize the amount of stuff we have to take with us on trips since our son was born:

1.  This past weekend was the first time we’ve ever taken a stroller anywhere (I use a jogging stroller all the time when we’re home, but it’s bulky and not something I’d want to try take on a trip).  We got a tiny umbrella stroller (it folds up into a cylinder just a few inches in diameter) at a thrift store for two dollars, and we stuck it in the trunk next to the golf clubs so that I could take our son for a long walk while the guys were golfing.  This would not have gone with us if we had been traveling by air.  Other than this trip, we’ve always used a sling to carry our son, or else he rides on my husband’s shoulders or walks along next to us.  I’m a big fan of the Moby Wrap that I got secondhand when our son was a few months old, and he went everywhere in that until he was about 18 months old.  A wrap or sling can be stuffed into a diaper bag – you can’t do that with a stroller.  Having a baby on your chest or back makes traveling pretty easy.  Not only does the sling take up almost no space, but you also have your hands free to carry other stuff.

2.  Co-sleeping means that you don’t have to haul a portable crib.  Or if you’re going to visit family or friends, you can see if they might be able to borrow a portable crib from someone in the neighborhood during your visit.  Hotels will usually bring roll-away cribs.  Or you can pretend you’re camping and kids can sleep on a blanket on the floor.  Be creative!

3.  Breastfeeding.  This one is pretty self-explanatory.  If you’re breastfeeding, there’s no need to bring bottles, formula, bottle warmers, a cooler, etc.  And if you plan a trip that involves staying near your baby most of the time, you can also avoid bringing the breast pump.  Our son nursed for two years, and he never drank from a bottle.  This was truly not a challenge at all for me – nursing him was something I loved (after the first couple painful weeks!) and it never seemed inconvenient at all.  That said, I nursed him anywhere and everywhere.  I had no problem nursing him in public, and I never even got so much as a sideways glance (lot of smiles though!) for nursing in public.  When we flew in March, I was still nursing our almost two-year-old, and it definitely made the plane ride easier.

4.  Kids don’t need as many clothes as we think they do.  Yes, babies do have blowouts.  But they really aren’t that common.  And tiny baby clothes are pretty easy to wash in a sink.  Babies also spit up, but that doesn’t mean that you have to immediately change the outfit.  Usually it can be cleaned with a wet cloth and all will be fine.  Toddlers get dirty.  That’s just the way it goes.  Our son is attracted to dirt, mud, leaves, sticks, and dust.  If I changed him every time he got dirty, I’d do little else.  So I just don’t worry about it.  I do keep a spare outfit in his diaper bag, and it sometimes comes in handy (like the day he stepped into a pond wearing jeans, socks, and shoes, and went in up to his waist).  But I had a spare outfit in his diaper bag all last winter and he never needed it at all – he outgrew it before we ever used it.   So when we went away for our three day weekend, he wore one outfit, and we packed two more.  Three outfits, three days, and it worked perfectly (if one had gotten hopelessly wet or dirty, he’d have just worn another outfit two days in a row – no big deal).

5.  Shoes.  Our son wore one pair of shoes (the Keens that I got for two bucks earlier this summer) and we packed a pair of sandals for him (these, found in brand new condition at a thrift store for a dollar) as we knew we’d be spending some time at a park with lots of water fountains.

6.  Toys, books, and other entertainment.  We never bring anything like this with us on trips.  We have an iPod Touch and we’ve downloaded several free toddler apps to it.  We took that along when we flew to visit my in-laws last spring, and it worked great as airplane entertainment.  We took the iPod along for our weekend trip, and it came in handy when we were out to dinner and waiting for food.  But most of the time, our son is really good at entertaining himself.  I think this might have something to do us not having a TV.  We encourage him to use his imagination a lot, and spend lots of time playing in the backyard.  He had no problem with the four hour car trip each way, because he liked looking at all the scenery.  And once we got to grandma and grandpa’s house, he entertained himself playing with pine cones and sticks in the backyard.  It’s really never occurred to us to pack toys when we go anywhere.

So all we took along for our son this past weekend was the tiny umbrella stroller, a tote bag full of diapers, and a small back pack that held stuff like his clothes, jacket, pajamas, swim trunks and sun hat.  The bag full of diapers was by far the biggest thing, but hopefully we won’t be needing those for too much longer.  It’s definitely possible to travel light, even with a baby or toddler – you just have to think outside the Babies-R-Us box.  Not only is is much more convenient to travel with very little stuff, but if you’re flying, it’s also less expensive now that airlines are charging so much extra for checked baggage.

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Inside-Out Simplicity

inside-out-simplicity-125X125It’s very rare for me to purchase a book, but I was inspired to buy Joshua Becker’s new e-book, Inside-Out Simplicity, and I just finished reading it this morning.  In so many ways, it echoes my sentiments exactly.

Minimalism and simplicity have become quite trendy lately, but quite often the people who are attracted to simple, minimalist lifestyles are young, single, and don’t have children.  Joshua Becker – married with two children – is an excellent resource for people looking for ideas on how to life a simple life, without a lot of stuff, even if they have children.  Since we have a child, his words tend to ring especially true for me, and a lot of the life lessons from children that he discusses in his new book are things I’ve witnessed myself over the last two years since we became parents.

Not only is simplicity possible when you have children, but I believe that it’s even more important when we have children.  As parents, we are responsible not just for feeding, clothing, and sheltering our kids, but we are also responsible for shaping and teaching a new person.  And the things we do are far more important than the things we say.  So focusing on what really matters in life (rather than material possessions, status, power, etc.) is even more important if you’re trying to teach your values to a new little person.

There are many ways to view minimalism and simplicity, and I believe they can enhance your life regardless of your goals or values.  I have no desire to live out of a backpack or count how many possessions I have.  I currently have very little desire to travel, and am very content on our little mini farm that we’re creating.  Maybe that’s because my husband and I traveled quite a bit throughout our 20s.  I was also a Peace Corps Volunteer in Africa, which entails heading out on a two year journey with only what you can fit in two suitcases (the return trip had the same two suitcase limit, which meant that nearly everything I acquired while I was in Africa was given away before I left).  I have had lots of travel adventures (which I thoroughly enjoyed) although currently the adventure that appeals most to me is creating a happy, nurturing home for my husband and son.  And I’m finding that the adventure is enhanced by minimizing our possessions and focusing on our inter-personal relationships rather than our stuff.

Many books have been written on the subject of minimalism as it relates to physical possessions.  How to get rid of things, how to stop shopping, how to downsize… all are valuable tools (including Joshua’s first book, Simplify.  7 Guiding Principles To Help Anyone Declutter Their Home And Life – a great read if you want practical tips and solutions).  Joshua’s new book, Inside-Out Simplicity, gets to the root of it all, and forces us to really look at what truly matters and peel away all the stuff that doesn’t. 

One of my favorite lines from Inside-Out Simplicity is “…in our consumerist culture, where discontent is promoted and material gratification is encourages, learning to be content can be very difficult”.  The book is over 100 pages of tips and insights for how you can achieve contentment, and it’s well worth reading.

Joshua starts the book by noting that he doesn’t expect everyone to agree with all that he’s written, and that he knows it may generate some controversy.  The only part of the whole book that I didn’t agree with was the section on spirituality, as it’s different from my own views.  I believe that generosity, simplicity, gratitude, selflessness, and equality are terribly important, but I have come to this conclusion without any sort of spiritual beliefs… I just think that those things are what it means to be a good person, and I am content with simply striving to be a good person, without an external spiritual or religious code to guide me.  Obviously everyone is going to have a different view on this sort of thing, and I can whole-heartedly recommend Joshua’s book as I agree with the other 98% of it.  If you read it, please leave a comment and let me know what you think.

EDIT:  I forgot to mention that although Inside-Out Simplicity is much deeper than a how-to manual for de-cluttering, it still inspired me in that regard.  I’ve written quite a bit over the last few months about how I’ve kicked my thrift store shopping habit and donated several car-loads of stuff.  I hadn’t been donating as much lately, simply because most of the extraneous stuff has already been donated.  But after reading Joshua’s book, I filled the trunk of my car with stuff to donate today, and it feels great.

A Summer Blanket For Our Son

No matter how warm it is, I always like to have at least a sheet over me when I’m sleeping.  So I had been putting a blanket over our son each night when he went to sleep, but the two blankets he had were both relatively heavy, and more suitable for winter.

I knew I could make a lightweight blanket pretty easily, so I went looking in my fabric supplies to see what I had.

Several years ago my mother in law gave me a box of my husband’s childhood stuff, including his favorite sheets from when he was a kid.  They were twin size, so not much use to us as sheets, and the fitted sheet was way past its prime.  I had thrown that out, but kept the top sheet in my fabric bin waiting for inspiration to strike.  I also had a nice cream-colored sheet that I had found at a thrift store a few years ago and bought specifically because I liked the material so much.  It has a super soft, almost silky feel to it, and I knew I could use it for something.  These days, I don’t buy anything unless I have a specific need for it, but this fabric was so great that it even got to stay when I purged most of my fabric collection last month.

I cut the flat sheet in half to make it the right size for a crib/toddler bed, and then cut a matching piece from the cream colored sheet.  I sewed them together inside-out, leaving a little hole at one corner that I used to turn it right side out.  Then I sewed up that hole, and sewed another seam all around the whole blanket, about an inch in from the edge. 

The result is an awesome summer blanket that makes my husband smile and keeps our son cozy at night.  All it cost was about an hour of my time, since all the materials were already in my sewing basket.

Here’s a picture of our son’s new retro NFL summer blanket:

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A Sandbox For Our Son

We decided recently that we wanted to put a sandbox in the backyard for our son.  Initially we thought we’d build him one from scrap lumber, but then my husband came up with the idea of an inground sandbox, with no materials necessary other than the sand.  We have finished digging (and planting!) our 27 garden beds, so I decided it was time to move on to the next digging project.  Yesterday evening I spent about two hours digging this by the back fence, in a section of the yard that is just mulch and not devoted to gardening:

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It’s about 18 inches deep, and roughly four feet square.  It will cost us about $25 to fill it with sand, which we’ll hopefully be able to do this weekend.  Nothing else needed except our son’s imagination.  Digging it was a great workout, and our son spent the whole time “helping” me by jumping in and out of the hole as I worked.  Quality time with him, good exercise, an outdoor project, and a sandbox that requires nothing other than sand.  Hard to beat!

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Frugal Fun For A Toddler

A couple weeks ago, my parents gave our son a set of keys.  They are currently his favorite possession, and go everywhere with him.  My parents were inspired by the fact that our son was always trying to play with our keys, and they decided to make him his own set.  They gathered up all the old random keys that they could find (you know, the ones that are hiding out in the back of the junk drawer or on a shelf in the garage, and nobody knows what they unlock anymore), and put them on a ring.  Then they made a tag with our son’s name on it and added it to the key ring.  Then they picked out a nice metal key chain at the thrift store (it has a picture of koalas on it, which our son thinks is nifty) and added that to the mix.  The result is a set of keys that looks just like ours.

Our son loves those keys.  He pretends to “drive” his toy train and even the wooden parking garage that sits in our living room (It has a nice little hole at the top that he can use as an ignition).  The keys go with him in his wagon, and have even gone to bed with him a few times.  It was a simple, easy, very inexpensive gift (free except for the little key ring they bought at a thrift store) and it’s provided a huge amount of fun for our son.  Obviously this wouldn’t be a good toy for children who are young enough to still be putting things in their mouths, but if they’re past that stage, what kid wouldn’t want their very own set of keys?

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A Good Frugal Eco-Friendly Parenting Blog

I just discovered a great new blog that I’m really enjoying.  Nature Mommy is written by Deborah Schneider, and is packed full of ideas about sustainable, eco- and budget-friendly parenting.  She and her husband are prospective foster-adoptive parents, and her blog is a great read for both current and future parents.

One of her posts, second-hand vs. sustainable, really resonated with me.  Sustainable, eco-friendly living is very high on the list of priorities for my husband and me.  We work hard to minimize our impact on the planet, and we definitely fall into the second-hand camp in the debate Deborah described.  The way I see it, any time we buy something second-hand, we’re contributing to a good cause (we mostly shop at Goodwill and Habitat for Humanity thrift stores) and we’re also completely eliminating the need for new products to be manufactured for our use.  In addition, we’re able to stretch our family’s budget much farther than it would have gone if we opted to buy things new.

Another great post on Deborah’s blog is about the baby gear she’s purchased, mostly used.  Our son is 20 months old, and our family budget has changed very little since he was born.  I see so many reports that warn parents about how their costs will go up dramatically when they have a child.  And I see plenty of my own friends – some of whom do not have a lot of money – spending big bucks on matching nursery furniture, coordinated bedding sets, disposable diapers, fancy toys… I feel sad for them, especially the ones who are struggling financially.  For us, the two major expenses since having our son have been his health insurance premiums (about $100/month) and his college savings account (another $100/month).  The health insurance is absolutely essential in my opinion.  The college fund is great if you can swing it, but plenty of kids get through college on scholarships and part time jobs, and a child is not going to be ruined because his parents couldn’t afford to pay for all or part of his education (we don’t plan to pay for all of it, but $100/month for 18 years will make a dent in his tuition bills someday).  Other than those two things, we’ve spent very little on our son.  We purchased a carseat and an organic crib mattress new, pretty much everything else has come from thrift stores and hand me downs.  Our son plays with jars of spices, pots and pans, wooden spoons, and large quantities of plain wooden second-hand blocks.  His crib sheets came from a thrift store, as do all of his clothes, and his curtains were made from second-hand sheets.  My mother and I made all of his diapers from old flannel sheets, t-shirts, and fleece sweatshirts.  We have probably spent less than $100 on diapering for 20 months, and the second-hand, high-efficiency, front-loading washing machine we got last summer has cut down dramatically on how much water it takes to keep the diapers clean.

Our frugal parenting is great for our our budget, but it’s also great for the environment, as we’re not contributing to a demand for new stuff, most of which would only be used for a short time, given how quickly children grow.  If you have a minute, I recommend taking a peek at Deborah’s blog and being inspired to live a life that is easier on your wallet and our world.

The Frugal Babe Hair Salon

I cut my son’s hair yesterday.  I’ve been cutting my husband’s hair for several years, but this was a different story.  My husband basically has me shave his head with an electric trimmer on the shortest setting.  All one length – as short as possible – and it takes about four minutes.  Then he lets it grow for a few weeks, and we repeat.  I’m proud of the money it saves us, but a trained monkey could replace me when it comes to cutting my husband’s hair.  (shhhh… don’t tell him I said that – he thinks I’m essential)

Our son has very soft, fine hair with a slight wave.  He has what I think of as surfer hair – a bit shaggy and all over the place, with little curls here and there.  I knew that the waviness would help cover any errors, so I headed in.  I put him in his highchair and distracted him with food and various kitchen utensils – otherwise he just wanted to grab the scissors out of my hands.  He’s a touch more wiggly than my husband.  And I really didn’t know what I was doing.  I remember reading a post Kelly wrote about cutting a little boy’s hair, and tried to keep the basics in mind.  But a 16 month old doesn’t sit still or tilt his head on command.  So I was basically winging it.  I trimmed around his ears and the back of his neck, and then started lifting sections around his head and cutting vertically (I figured that would help to eliminate the bowl-on-the-head look).  After about 15 minutes, I was amazed by the transformation.  Gone was my little surfer-dude, and in his place was a somewhat clean-cut little boy.

I was thrilled.  We saved $10 – $20 (depending on the place, that’s the range for a kid’s cut in our town), and I developed a little more confidence in my ability to do new things.  I had absolutely no experience with cutting hair without an electric trimmer, and our son’s cut turned out great.  He was a good guinea pig, since he’s a toddler who doesn’t have to impress anyone with his haircut.  By the time he’s heading off to school someday, I should be an expert and he should be much better at sitting still.  And since this attempt was successful, I will continue to cut his hair for as long as he’ll let me.