Comments on: Trading Baby Clothes For Food

By: Stacy Claire Boyd Birth Announcements

Stacy Claire Boyd Birth Announcements — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 21:01:17 +0000

An even better concept would be, trading in used baby clothes for food, their are so many starving children in the world today

By: estelle

estelle — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 15:55:15 +0000

I did, once. I returned a duplicate gift I received at my baby shower and got myself a skillet with the money. I did not feel bad at all, I think babies receive a lot of stuff that they don’t need anyway.

By: mc

mc — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 15:43:47 +0000

wow, this is fascinating!

I think by sending a return receipt, the giver was including approval for a return or exchange.

Personally, I would much rather have a friend exchange a gift for something wanted or needed than to see it unused in their home.

Also, FB only returned a portion of the gift (still keeping some baby supplies), and the thank you and contact iwth the friend is the most important thing, anyways.

Finally, friends are friends, they know and appreciate each other’s values.

By: Kelly from My Small Cents

Kelly from My Small Cents — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 15:07:35 +0000

I have to admit that when I saw this post, my first thought was ‘I hope her friend doesn’t read this blog!’ I agree with the previous posters: buying groceries just somehow doesn’t seem ‘right’ to me. My thought would be to get a gift card if you really couldn’t find something you liked immediately, or to buy something that you will need in a few years. After all, if there is one given about babies, it is that they get bigger.

By: v

Thu, 12 Jun 2008 20:35:44 +0000

Financial security is the responsibility of Frugal Babe and her husband, I believe her friend’s gift was not intended to subsidize their household. Instead Frugal Babe bought groceries, what if she decided to buy film for her camera or underwear for herself. The point is I doubt that her friend would have given her money towards groceries, film or underwear, since Frugal Babe and her husband are not destitue. She could have returned the gift since she truly didn’t need it or want it.

By: April

April — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 14:50:50 +0000

So FB should buy something her family doesn’t need to maintain this “spirit” of a gift?

Isn’t financial security (which comes from both big and small decisions) the best gift she could ever give her son?

I wouldn’t be offended if someone took back something they couldn’t use, but then, I hate having STUFF just for the sake of having it. Clutter drives me mad.

By: FrugalBabe

FrugalBabe — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 00:34:19 +0000

I’m glad that this post has generated some debate - much more fun than everyone agreeing with each other My question to Smart Girl and J would be why do you differentiate between a consumable necessity and a non-consumable item that is fun but not a necessity? It seems that if I’m going to return the gift and get something else (ie, not just the same item in a different size), I’m already getting away from the original spirit of the gift, because I’m picking out something other than what the giver picked out for me. I think this is actually the first time I’ve ever returned a gift, so this is new territory for me.

By: Smart Girl = MP

Smart Girl = MP — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 23:55:31 +0000

I have to agree with J on this. The gift was to celebrate the birth of your son. I don’t know who your friends are and what your financial situation is, however, if I were the giver of the gift and found out my hard earned $$ went from being a gift to your son to food on your table, I’d be both offended and hurt. That said, however, I would hope that I would have been a close enough friend not to send you something you didn’t need or want. But, since it was my desire to celebrate the joy of your child’s birth, I would hope you would find a way to use funds from the gift that would benefit him later. I’m sure the clothing could have been traded for when he is older (18 months or 5 years… wouldn’t mttter - still would have been within the spirit of the gift). If you had elected not to use the $$ for clothing, then I would hope you would use it to purchase a picture frame — even if it were to just “re-gift” later to me with a photo of your family. My point is that gifts, in whatever form, shouldn’t be traded for consumable necessities. If you don’t need/want the item, take the gift card and wait until the you see something you do want.

By: FrugalBabe

FrugalBabe — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 22:41:38 +0000

I had wondered if anyone would cry foul on this one, so thanks for your comments J. I did spend about ten minutes in the baby section at Target after I returned the clothes. But I didn’t see anything at all that we needed. We already have a lot of stuff, and we’re trying to be as non-consumeristic as possible in raising our son (just like the rest of our life). So I didn’t want to buy a baby gadget just because it was there. Target only gives gift cards for returns with a gift receipt, so I had to spend the money at the store. I did debate it for a few minutes, for exactly the reasons you mentioned, but in the end I went with food - something I knew we would use.

By: J

Wed, 11 Jun 2008 21:54:24 +0000

I totally disagree with FB and the commenters on this one. Had you returned the clothes and bought something vaguely baby-related I would feel like you were honoring the spirit of the gift. Your friend sent you clothes for your baby, not money to buy groceries. If you had too many baby clothes already, fine, find something else you need for the baby and buy that. Or at the very least put that extra $18 you spent on groceries into the kid’s college fund, on top of what you already contribute. My family is all about returning gifts that aren’t quite right and I think that that’s a good philosophy. But then we’re expected to use the money to buy something else, not spend it on necessities. It seems like a very odd use of money from a friend’s gift.