Comments on: It Really Is The Thought That Counts http://frugalbabe.com/2007/06/08/it-really-is-the-thought-that-counts/ A rich life without a lot of money Fri, 10 Feb 2012 16:44:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: ladydoughgirl http://frugalbabe.com/2007/06/08/it-really-is-the-thought-that-counts/#comment-2346 ladydoughgirl Tue, 12 Jun 2007 16:03:51 +0000 http://frugalbabe.com/2007/06/08/it-really-is-the-thought-that-counts/#comment-2346 Well, I must admit I had a tasteful but not inexpensive wedding. My parents paid for 90% of it. If I was getting married today I would make different choices about that. One of my favorite gifts was something that didn't cost much money at all. We went overseas on our honeymoon to the country that my husband's family is originally from. The gift from my mother in law was an address book that she had filled in with all of her friends and family's information in it so that we could look up friends and family. This gift touched me so much because it was so thoughtful but also because it took her time to fill that out. Much more creative and thougthful than just receiving a thing like a pot or a bowl. Well, I must admit I had a tasteful but not inexpensive wedding. My parents paid for 90% of it. If I was getting married today I would make different choices about that.

One of my favorite gifts was something that didn’t cost much money at all. We went overseas on our honeymoon to the country that my husband’s family is originally from. The gift from my mother in law was an address book that she had filled in with all of her friends and family’s information in it so that we could look up friends and family. This gift touched me so much because it was so thoughtful but also because it took her time to fill that out. Much more creative and thougthful than just receiving a thing like a pot or a bowl.

]]> By: udandi http://frugalbabe.com/2007/06/08/it-really-is-the-thought-that-counts/#comment-2312 udandi Mon, 11 Jun 2007 14:54:55 +0000 http://frugalbabe.com/2007/06/08/it-really-is-the-thought-that-counts/#comment-2312 ah, I have a love-hate thing with weddings, wedding showers (and now even baby showers) because of gift registries and an unwillingness to buy to please. I agree with the idea that if you want to host a party to celebrate your wedding, great! But it is not up to the guests to help off-set the bill with gifts. This weekend, I picked up One Perfect Day: The Selling of the American Wedding but I haven't gotten far. I will probably post about it when I am done. (P.S. what's the secret to your spam catcher? Do I leave a space between words or not?! I hope third time 's a charm!) ah, I have a love-hate thing with weddings, wedding showers (and now even baby showers) because of gift registries and an unwillingness to buy to please.

I agree with the idea that if you want to host a party to celebrate your wedding, great! But it is not up to the guests to help off-set the bill with gifts.

This weekend, I picked up One Perfect Day: The Selling of the American Wedding but I haven’t gotten far. I will probably post about it when I am done.

(P.S. what’s the secret to your spam catcher? Do I leave a space between words or not?! I hope third time ‘s a charm!)

]]> By: GradGirl http://frugalbabe.com/2007/06/08/it-really-is-the-thought-that-counts/#comment-2260 GradGirl Sat, 09 Jun 2007 20:48:55 +0000 http://frugalbabe.com/2007/06/08/it-really-is-the-thought-that-counts/#comment-2260 FB: I could not agree with you more. In fact, I was just discussing this very thing with a friend of mine. In today's culture, registering is one of the first things a newly engaged couple does. Where did that come from? FB: I could not agree with you more. In fact, I was just discussing this very thing with a friend of mine. In today’s culture, registering is one of the first things a newly engaged couple does. Where did that come from?

]]> By: Bianca Bizarro http://frugalbabe.com/2007/06/08/it-really-is-the-thought-that-counts/#comment-2237 Bianca Bizarro Fri, 08 Jun 2007 20:14:24 +0000 http://frugalbabe.com/2007/06/08/it-really-is-the-thought-that-counts/#comment-2237 I agree with you. I can't believe how out of control weddings have gotten. If the couple wants to have a big blowout and invite me -- I'll go, but I'm not going to spend more on a couple just because they're having a splashier wedding than a friend who's having a small wedding. I agree with you. I can’t believe how out of control weddings have gotten. If the couple wants to have a big blowout and invite me — I’ll go, but I’m not going to spend more on a couple just because they’re having a splashier wedding than a friend who’s having a small wedding.

]]> By: Kit http://frugalbabe.com/2007/06/08/it-really-is-the-thought-that-counts/#comment-2236 Kit Fri, 08 Jun 2007 18:17:39 +0000 http://frugalbabe.com/2007/06/08/it-really-is-the-thought-that-counts/#comment-2236 I so agree! The motto of my slightly bitter, twice divorced sarcastic self is: "Marriage. It only takes two years and you get a lot of great stuff." But really especially in this day and age we are looking at marriages between two people who are already established individually if not as a couple. The wedding gifts my ex('s) and I received ranged from china and silver (which my mother insisted I register for and have only sat unused in a drawer for umpteen years) to a doormat (which we registered for). The very best gifts were inexpensive ones which reflect the personality of the giver, and which I still have and use. My cousin is getting married in July. We are not close and I will not attend but I did go to her on line registry intending to send a gift. The least costly item was $200 and the most was in the $3000 range. My first instinct was to send nothing at all, but I've decided to send a small something that I can afford (maybe in the $30 - $50 range). I so agree! The motto of my slightly bitter, twice divorced sarcastic self is: “Marriage. It only takes two years and you get a lot of great stuff.” But really especially in this day and age we are looking at marriages between two people who are already established individually if not as a couple. The wedding gifts my ex(‘s) and I received ranged from china and silver (which my mother insisted I register for and have only sat unused in a drawer for umpteen years) to a doormat (which we registered for). The very best gifts were inexpensive ones which reflect the personality of the giver, and which I still have and use.

My cousin is getting married in July. We are not close and I will not attend but I did go to her on line registry intending to send a gift. The least costly item was $200 and the most was in the $3000 range. My first instinct was to send nothing at all, but I’ve decided to send a small something that I can afford (maybe in the $30 – $50 range).

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